Texting Girls: The Secret To Making Her Fall In Love
If the girl likes you, you can do almost what ever you want in regards to text message and phone calls
Yes, you read right. If you made enough impact, connection and sexual escalation/tension in the interaction with the woman before or after she gave you her number, then what you do by way of text messages and phone calls bares nearly no importance what so ever.
If a woman respects you and is attracted to you, then she will be happy to reply to your text message even if it’s dull and unimaginative.
If she really likes you, then she will be happy to meet up with you, even if you arrange to meet her on the coldest day of the year in an area or venue she doesn’t even like. (I am telling this from first hand personal experience)
Why Text/Phone Lubrication is so Important
When you get a woman’s number, you might be thinking:
“Yes! She likes me! And so getting her to agree to a date is going to be EASY!!!!”
Well, in some cases, this is true. But a lot of the time, women give their telephone numbers out, because of the following:
- You persuaded her well
- She enjoyed the feeling of the ‘moment’ you created when getting her number.
- She was drunk
- She gave it, with only HALF the intention to ACTUALLY follow up.
This is why, so many guys can’t understand why women flake out when they try and text or phone her to arrange a date.
Just because a woman makes up her mind to give you her number, this does not mean she has MADE UP HER MIND TO SEE YOU AGAIN.
Very often what you write in a text or what you say on the phone can clinch you the deal, or unfortunately ruin it
Now, what do you usually do when you get a girls number?
If you got her number in the evening, say at a club or a bar, I reckon, based on past experiences with men I have given my number out to and from working with my students, that you probably text her next day (possibly-when she’s still hung over) with something like this classic example:
“Hey great meeting you last night, lets meet up sometimes. I’m free on Wednesday if you are up for it..xx”
Now let’s dissect step by step and word for word what is so WRONG with a common and ineffective text like this!
First of all, this is the common type of response that us girls get. I literally have a graveyard of texts that are like this and so do millions of other girls too. Ask yourself: ‘What impact does this make’?
The answer is ZERO.
You might think that you are the only guy in the club she handed her number over to, but it’s often NOT the case. Even if you were the ONLY guy she gave her number to, this kind of text makes ZERO impact on her. You might be lucky if she replies with the usual polite (but useless) and robotic /auto pilot response:
“Hey, nice meeting you too. send me a text next week ;-)”
This probably does not mean, “I’m playing hard to get” this probably means:
“I have the good manners to reply, but I don’t really have any urge to see you again any time soon”
As soon as she gives you her number there is POTENTIAL, but its what you do with that potential that matters!
When you write any of the classically USELESS follow up texts such as
“Hey, was really nice meeting you last night, give me a call sometime”
“Hey, I really had fun last night. We must do it again sometime”
“Hey, Hope you had fun the rest of the night. Send me a text when you want to hang out sometime”
She will feel that you are just using a STANDARD text on her that you use whenever you meet any girl on a night out. So not only will it make no impact, but it will also make her feel as if you are making ZERO effort in getting to see her again.
NOTE: Before you shout from behind your laptop:
“But ! I have used those text message lines before, and the girls have always responded well”
THE RESON FOR THIS IS BECAUSE SHE LIKED YOU WHEN SHE MET YOU
Therefore, as I said right from the very start, whatever you text that girl, it will make barely any difference in your chances of securing a date with her.
What is Wrong with the standard message?
Now back to dissecting what is wrong with:
“Hey great meeting you last night, lets meet up sometimes. I’m free on Wednesday if you are up for it..xx”
We have established this text (and other text messages of this nature) make no impact and consequently it will NOT force a response from your target.
But also ask yourself: What does it say about YOU when you say:
“It was great meeting you” ?
It can come across ‘over excited’ and ‘overly grateful to meet her.
DO NOT GIVE HER TOO MUCH VALUE UNTIL SHE HAS EARNED IT.
Do you think she thought meeting you was GREAT?
She probably thought it was O.K or maybe NICE. So why hand her that much value if she might not have felt the same as you about the encounter?
What else is wrong with the wording of this text?
“Lets meet up sometime..”
This is too vague.
A lot of guys think if they keep it casual and ‘open’ for suggestions, then this will some how magically force her to respond with a list of days that she is available. This is nearly never the case. Consequently she will only respond back vaguely with something like this:
“..Yeah, I’m busy next week, but give me a bell the week after that”
This translates to: “I’m probably NOT going to see you again, but I will be polite rather than hurt your feelings, and hopefully soon you will get the message and piss off ;-)”
This is ACTUALLY what me and my friends have WANTED to respond with, to guys we were not interested in. I know it sounds harsh, but it’s true.
I usually have a standard reply, which is this one:
“Nice to meet you to, I will give you a call next week some time”
But here’s the worst part of the text:
Little kisses should not be added until you have at least KISSED her FOR REAL.
“..xx” shouts :
“I really like you”
This again is a classic case of giving her way too much value far too early on.
Your texts have to make impact and force a positive response and they also need to demonstrate:
a)You have high value
B)Your time is precious ad limited (We will go in to more depth about this important factor later)
Just in case, you wanted to see more classic text mistakes, here are some straight out of the phones of me and my friends, that I felt made little or no impact and demonstrated no high value what so ever (all names have been changed):
“Hey it was really nice meeting you last night- Ken”
“Hey, I really enjoyed myself last night, I hope you did too. Give me a buzz if you want to hang out sometime”
“Hey Natalie. It was lovely meeting you the other night, Lets grab a coffee some time..xx”
“Hey Andrea, you probably met loads of people last night, I’m Gary (guy with the red jumper-lol) how are you?”
“Hey,it’s me john.. Hope you got home ok last night. What are the rest of your weekend plans?”
And last but not least, here is the dreaded ‘long text’ that all us girls get sent to us from time to time:
“Hey its me Phillip, It was really nice meeting you last night. I think you’re really funny and very beautiful. I decided to go to another club with my friends afterwards, it was really great, shame you couldn’t join us, they had an amazing DJ there and a cool roof garden. It would be cool if you came along with me next week..xx”
Try and keep you texts the same lengths as the ones that she sends you.
So now you get the idea of what does not work. We will now look at the number of texts you can send that DO work. But first, lets have a look at your objective from sending the text message, which is getting her to SPEAK to you on the phone, and ultimately arranging a follow-up date.
Why phone calls are better then texts, and why you first objective should be to get her speaking on the phone
Speaking on the phone is by far, more personal than text messages, and you will find that by speaking to the girl on the phone it will help to stop her potentially flaking on you.
When people text each other, they get into a situation where by they feel they have the right to not have to commit to a planned arrangement.
Its’ much less of a SOLID commitment when people arrange something via text, as it is easy to simply just a send another text saying:
“Hey, I’m really sorry, but I have a bad headache and cant make it tonight, text me soon..xx”
When an arrangement has been made by two people via a phone call, it usually means the one who can not make the date will have to actually call the person in order to break the commitment, which people do not usually like doing, so they feel they HAVE to keep to that commitment, rather than breaking it.
I always urge my students to get to the point of being able to phone the woman when he chooses with full confidence that she will pick up the phone as soon as she sees his name flashing up on her screen.
People she answers her phone to are the following:
- Men she is attracted to!
People she does not answer her phone to:
- Men she met in a bar or on the street, that she has since decided she doesn’t want to meet up with!
YOU WANT TO PUT YOURSELF IN TO THE FIRST CATEGORY RATHER THAN THE LATTER!
The text options I am now going to share with you will help take you from text message to phone conversation both quickly and smoothly
The Power of Ping Texts
Before I give you the list of ‘ping texts’ that you can use, let me explain:
- What they are
- When to use them
- Why they are so effective!
So what is a ping text?
A ping text is when you send a text message to a girl that grabs her attention and forces her to respond and it also gives you a signal to know whether she is at that moment too busy to speak to you.
Ping texts do not make much logical sense, and as a result they break patterns and get the woman to become curious, and as a further result she begins investing in you a lot more.
Ping texts are also a great way to indicate whether a woman is available to speak on the phone, (which should be your objective)
These are a list of ping texts that I have given my students, and they have sent these ping texts in front of me, only to have a response within 2 minutes!
THE ‘PUPPY’ PING:
” Doberman Pincher or Dalmatian?” (You can pick any two dogs, but these 2 for some reason produce the desired effect most)
Girl usually responds with:
“Huh? What do you mean?”
“Why are you asking?”
Just by getting her to respond with either of these replies means you have achieved two objectives.
l. She is responding, (and usually straight away), instead of leaving your text message for a few hours until she can be bothered to reply.
2. You are able to indicate whether she is busy or not. If she replies within 5 minutes, then this means she is not too busy to take your call.
When she replies, you should respond with this:
“I’m thinking about buying a puppy silly!” or ‘dopey’ (your choice)
She will then respond with the following:
“Oh. I don’t know. I prefer cats/I like Labradors/I don’t know much bout dogs..Etc”
Either way, you should respond with:
” That’s not much help! Will call you in 5 minutes”
Or if she responds with her choice, ALWAYS reply with:
(9 times out of 10 she will reply with “Why, what’s the right answer?”)
And then call her in 5 minutes.
PS- if you want her to invite herself over to have hot sex with you, watch this video. There’s a unique combination of words and gestures that send electric energy up her clit and make her want you bad.
The ‘GINGER’ Ping text.
NOTE: Do not use this ping text on a girl with VERY blonde hair or black hair.
“Are you ginger’ I couldn’t tell in the dark light when we met”
The girl will always reply with:
“No, I’m not I’m blonde/brunette. I can’t believe you thought I was ginger! ;-)”
“Lol Do you have something against gingers”
She will respond with:
“No. But I’m not ginger and no one has ever thought that”
And then call her in 5 minutes.
The ‘TWIN SISTER’ ping text:
“Do you have a twin sister’
She will respond with “No. Why?”
You call her within in 5 minutes. (Many times, this ping text makes the girl call up rather than you even needing to call her first)
My students are often surprised about how quick the response from the girl is to their ping texts.
Now notice how I deliberately did not add the question mark to the end of any of the ping texts. The reason for this is simple. A question mark always comes across a little needy or unsure. She will KNOW it’s a question that you are asking, so no need for the ?
I hope you noticed how I always told you to call her 5 minutes later. This is because if she has responded within a few minutes to your ping text, then she is NOT busy. You will not be disturbing her, and plus: YOU WILL HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT STRAIGHT AWAY.
All the ping texts allow you to carry on the conversation straight away. So there are no awkward beginning moments in the phone conversation.
With the ‘twin sister’ ping text, you can follow up straight away when you call her with:
“Hey, that was so weird..like I said I just met a woman who looks exactly like you, well she was a little taller but she looked just like you..anyway..How are you?”
This is better than the usual way guys start a hone call conversation such as:
“Hey, its me Gary how are you?”
“Oh hi, yeah I’m fine..How are you?”
“Yeah I’m fine, am I calling you at a bad time?”
“Er well, I’m just with some friends can I call you back?”
By using a ping text you can transition in to a full-blown conversation very quickly, without having to ask her if she’s busy/if you’re disturbing her etc.
SUMMARY ON PING TEXTS:
- They get her attention
- They effectively break patterns (as she will not expect this)
- They allow you to work out if she’s too busy to speak
- They hand you an opportunity to be cheeky or playful
- They give you an easy way to start the conversation when you phone her.
Nick name texts – The Panty Warmer Method
Now for this to work, you would have needed to given her a nickname during the interaction at the club/bar/bookshop etc
My idea of a good number close is to make it appear as though you never asked.
Wait for the conversation to get to its climatic point, whether that would be through making a deep connection, or making her laugh to the point of tears. You have to at that very moment, end the conversation!
“I’ve really enjoyed OUR conversation, but I’m being really rude here,because my friends are waiting for me”
This will make it seem that she is the one who has been keeping you there from your friends; furthermore, it allows you to demonstrate that although you have enjoyed yourself you have other plans. (always keep your audience wanting more)
Its vital you pick that climatic point of the conversation carefully, as it is common for guys to go beyond that point. After that intense moment of connection there is inevitably a lull, which, might confirm the fact that your still strangers and her barriers might return.
Quite literally many guys “miss the boat” in this situation.
Next, look at your watch, as you get up from your seat/down your drink/gather your cigarette packet and lighter and say
“We should carry on with this another time”
“Should” is the key word here. It’s more effective than “Can I” or “it would be nice”
Get out your phone before she has a chance to respond and hand it to her; tell her to tap in her number. Do this before she has a chance to react or, time to think “Should I give my number to this stranger? I’ve only known him for a few minutes, what if he’s a weirdo? I cant believe he thinks he can get my number this easy etc etc”
You must ALSO say:
“Right, when you have done that make sure you put it under a nickname, I can tell a lot about someone by there self appointed nickname, you know, how creative they are etc…”
This is a major point to this technique; it covers 2 things at once:
- It distracts her from the act of actually passing on her details, as she will find the task much more entertaining (girls like this shit)
- It will suggest that she has already accepted giving over her details (never underestimate the power of suggestion.)
Good sales people do this all the time. You go in the store to maybe buy an item you had in mind, notice the good sales person will not ask if you want to buy one, instead they will ask you how
many you want. Making you believe you have already decided on it and now are in the process of worrying how many you actually need!
This is a great way to number close a woman; she can get cold feet about handing you her number, even if she likes you!
If its been a short and sweet encounter, she will be thinking “but I’ve only known him for a few minutes”
Please don’t be tempted to think this yourself, going beyond that pinnacle point of an interaction can ruin your chances. Rather instead, use this little tip of setting the nickname task.
Remember when delivering the task, do so with absolute self-assurance that she will perform – give a cheeky smile but remain dominant. (As always when you are giving a task)”.
When you have given her a nick name, you can insert this into the text, and as a result this will automatically remind her (MORE VIVADLY) the positive experience she got from the interaction.
This is what is known in NLP (neuro linguistic programming) as an ‘anchor’. You would have number closed her in a high point in the interaction. (Obviously you would never number close a girl in a lull point of the interaction) Therefore since the nick name would have been given at the height of the interaction, those emotions she would have felt at that time will be pulled back in to her mind the moment she sees her nick name on the text. Literally the nickname will anchor back those positive emotions of when you number closed her.
Lets say the nick name you chose for her was ‘Paris Hilton’ or ‘Gucci girl’ because she portrayed herself as high maintenance, you could simply write:
“Hey Gucci girl, I bet your in a nail salon somewhere “
“Hey Paris, I reckon your shopping for shoes right now”
Whatever her nickname was, always include it in the text and add a presumption of what she is doing right at that very second that is congruent with her chosen nickname.
She will respond usually with something like this:
“Haha! Actually believe it or not I’m not shopping, I’m at home doing my coursework/ working/ at a library etc”
She will purposefully tell you she is doing something that is NOT congruent with the nickname, as she will want to prove to you that she is not the person you labeled her as (or who she initially labeled herself as)
This is positive by the way, as this means she wants you to get behind her mask!
Now if she carries on playing up to her nickname, in which case she might respond with:
“Lol Yes, I am in my chauffer driven car with my Chihuahua in my handbag”
(Or something along those playful lines).
This is the point where you need to send her a curve ball and respond with:
“Yeah right, in other words your on a bus with your pit-bull terrier” (or any other similar ‘neg’, which will state that you are not playing her silly little game anymore (but of course in a humorous way)
Again this is all a great way to get her to respond quickly to your texts!
MAKING YOU A PRIORITY!
Nickname texts will:
- Anchor her emotions to the feelings she experienced in the interaction.
- Allow you to be personal with her
- Give you the opportunity to neg
- Give you the opportunity to create deep connection
Situational Observation Text Method
(Personally, these I believe are the most effective)
This method shows the girl a quick glimpse in to your amazing life, WITHOUT inviting her to join.
A little like holding up a cookie to a child, and then eating it in front of them before they get a chance to eat it themselves (evil, I know- but highly effective)
Now when most guys attempt ‘situational observation’ texts, they get it wrong by inviting the girl to join.
“Hey I’m at this amazing bar, the music is great, you should come along”
This implies that he cannot fully enjoy the moment without her company, and consequently it gives her way to much value.
How many times has a girl just dropped whatever it is she is doing to come and join you? (Not very often)
Instead, a situational text should be more like these examples:
” Hey you, I’m at this crazy bar with some amazing music, just needed to take a break, how are you”
” I just had the most amazing day in the park with some cool people, how was your day?”
” I’m at this great art exhibition, there’s some amazing work here, how are you?”
If you write her these kind of situational texts she will be thinking:
“How come he didn’t invite me?”
” Oh, guys usually add, do u want to join? Why hasn’t he done the same?”
“He sounds like he is having fun, I better prove to him that I’m having fun too”
She will usually reply with the following texts:
“Sounds cool, I just came back from lunch with my friends, we had a great time, what are you up to now?”
” That’s sounds cool, what kind of music were they playing there?”
Or even better:
” Sounds great, you should have invited me lol”
All these responses are exactly what you want! And again, you can phone her almost straight away and transition into a natural full blown conversation right away.
Situational texts will:
- Give her a glimpse of your brilliant life
- Make her want to share the experience with you in the future
- Give you the stepping-stone that is sometimes needed to phone her and get into a full-blown conversation right away
- Make her curious to get to know you more
The Question Text Method
These are little like ping texts, but they make more of an immediate sense than ping texts. Question texts are a little like ‘mini cold readings’. You ask her a question with an answer already set in your mind.
EXAMPLE OF ‘QUESTION TEXTS’:
I was thinking about something you said the other night.. are you a Scorpio?”
You mentioned something the other night that stuck in my mind a little, are you an only child or are you from a really big family”
You said something before, it made me think.. are you a cat person or a dog person?”
You mentioned to me a few things, I wanted to know are you someone who goes for their goals or gives up?”
Now these question texts are pretty full on, but in my experience, as long as you MENTION the fact that she had said something or mentioned a few things to you during the interaction, which is why you are now asking her this full on question, she will usually reply very quickly and she will be enthusiastic about it too.
Women actually don’t mind answering fairly deep questions, it shows you want to know more about another side to her, and that you already might have an idea in your head about who she is, that she will either want to confirm or confront.
It also shows you were PAYING ATTENTION to what she revealed to you.
She will usually respond with a rather lengthy answer and it will usually end up asking you a question in return.
hmmmm, yes I am very goal driven, but I know how to relax too. What did I say that made you ask me that? How about you? Are you goal driven?”
I am sooooo definitely a cat person, what about you?”
The question texts nearly always force the women to ask you the same in return, which is great, as your objective should also be to get her asking questions about your self, rather than just her answering.
The ‘QUESTION TEXT’ will:
- Force a question from her, usually the same question as you asked her.
- Make impact
- Create the steps to make a deep connection in the phone call
So now I have shared with you many options in which you can choose to text the woman with. I am now going to explain to you how to make the PHONE CALL work for you.